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Dating

Here I am, what feels like perpetually, in the dating world.  I will admit my commitment to this world wavers...a lot.  But I'm back at putting forth a bit more effort again.

I love this approach I heard for dating: instead of thinking, 'I hope they like me.' before a date, think, 'I hope I like them.'  It's pretty crazy how this slight change can alter the approach so much.

But if I've realized anything it's that it either is or it isn't.  It's not your fault or theirs.  I mean sometimes one person or another can be a jerk, but usually that's a result of it not being "right."
That does not mean I'm not disappointed/let down/sad when it all goes down.

Another piece of advice I received and love is this article: Why Don't Men I Date Ever Love Me.  And I pretty much love it.  Read it.  (It's longish for our snapshot world.)  But power through & hang in there til the end!
I honestly think I'm relatively good with this approach, but it's good to hear and a good reminder.

Someday I'll meet the one, but in the meantime, I'll just be here...bein' me.

With that said, I'm an amazing wing woman.  So I have that going for me...

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